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it's not you, it's me

it's not you, it's me phrase: don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship.

Phrase

it's not you, it's me

  1. (ironic, often, sarcastic) Don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship.
    • Matthew: We have a problem...
      Melissa: Is it me?
      Matthew: No, no, no. It's not you, it's me. I'm not attracted to you.
      Melissa: Oh.
      Matthew: Now, I don't want you to take this as a rejection, but as an acceptance between two people whose needs are profoundly incompatible. And you're not alone. I...1988, Casual Sex?
    • George: I don't understand. Things were going so great. What happened? Something must have happened.
      Gwen: It's not you, it's me.
      George: You're giving me the "it's not you, it's me" routine?! I invented "it's not you, it's me"! Nobody tells me it's them, not me! If it's anybody, it's me.
      Gwen: All...1993 October 28, “The Lip Reader”, in Seinfeld

it's not you, it's me meaning in Persian

it's not you, it's me in Persian

don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship
به خاطر تو نیست، تقصیر خودمه be xâter-e to nist, taqsir-e xodam-e

Origin of it's not you, it's me

Originally used in American sports as a humblebrag consolation to less successful players. Popularized in romantic contexts by the 1988 American comedy Casual Sex?

Questions about it's not you, it's me

What does it's not you, it's me mean?
It's not you, it's me means don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship.
What is it's not you, it's me in Persian?
It's not you, it's me in Persian is به خاطر تو نیست، تقصیر خودمه (be xâter-e to nist, taqsir-e xodam-e). See It's not you, it's me meaning in Persian.
What part of speech is it's not you, it's me?
It's not you, it's me is a phrase.

Words near it's not you, it's me in the dictionary

  1. it's not the size of the ship, it's the motion of the ocean
  2. it's not the whistle that pulls the train
  3. it's not what you know but who you know
  4. it's not what you know but whom you know
  5. it's not what you say but how you say it
  6. it's not you, it's me
  7. it's nothing
  8. it's on
  9. it's only a matter of time
  10. it's only a question of time
  11. it's raining

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