gate-keep

Verb

gatekeep (third-person singular simple present gatekeeps, present participle gatekeeping, simple past and past participle gatekept)

1. (transitive) To control or limit access to something.
2. (transitive) To limit (sometimes manipulatively, rather than directly) how much of a role another party, often a spouse, has in some task.
3. (broadly, transitive) To limit another party's participation in a collective identity or an activity, usually due to undue pettiness, resentment, or overprotectiveness.

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